Men are driven by performance, they measure
their manhood by how many times they can have sex or how good a lover they are.
But most guys focus entirely on their own pleasure, which is not a turn-on.
Here are five signs you’re not such the hunk you think you are in bed…
If you haven't read Part 1 yet, read it!
1. YOU KEEP ASKING, “DID YOU COME?”
You may genuinely care about her climax, but your partner probably only hears your ego talking. You’re trying to validate that you’re doing a good job, but understand that the questions « Can’t you come? » or « When are you going to come? » guarantee it won’t happen. Because your girlfriend feels like she has to hit her peak in order to satisfy you, yet, her climax requires concentration. A lot of it.
2. YOU PUSH THE BACK OF HER HEAD WHEN SHE GOES DOWN ON YOU.
This is one case where your pleasure is most definitely uncomfortable for her. Believe me, she’ll take you deeper on her own if she can ! Guys, know this, from what I have heard around, most women can’t stand this. Some even take it as a sign of disrespect. Why not try to make a verbal request, instead : “Are you able to take me deeper?” Then at some point, make eye contact, that will help reassure her that this is about connection, not just you getting off.
3. YOU APOLOGIZE FOR COMING TOO QUICKLY.
Apologize if you must, but don’t make a habit out of saying you’re sorry if she’s been left hanging, it becomes lame. Why not keep the sex play going, instead, and concentrate a bit on her. Your orgasm doesn’t mean the action is over ! I guarantee you, i twill actually enhance your sex life.
4. WHEN SHE STARTS RESPONDING, YOU CHANGE POSITIONS.
You may be thinking: If she likes this, then she’ll really like this. Wrong. If she feels good, just stay where you are, that’s not the time to change things up ! Crazy new moves and wild jumps will not help her race to climax, it’s just going to delay it. Don’t move until she gives you the signal.
5. YOU JUST GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT.
It feels awesome to you, but if your partner isn’t sufficiently lubed up, it’s the equivalent of a burn. In other words, skipping foreplay and going straight to machine-gun is not very pleasurable and totally painful to her. And be aware, if a man doesn't go down, he is simply a bad lover for us women.
Of course, there are exceptions. Some guys are very generous, may we find them ! And ladies, condescension does not do wonders for my men’s ego. So go easy on them as well. You are not happy about the way things are going in bed, speak up and help the change ! With a little tactful communication, your lovemaking can quickly become super lusty.
Read Part 1 here and stay tuned for Part 3!