When you are alone, what you learn about is: yourself. You learn about your own strengths, your weaknesses and insecurities.
It seems today, there must be something wrong with you if you’re alone. We praise the extroverts – those who know how to handle themselves in a crowd, the ones with a vast network of friends. We think working in groups and on teams is the only way to find the answer to a problem. That two heads are better than one. But the truth is, almost half of the world doesn’t agree.
Here are 5 rules to live by when it comes to being alone. Hopefully, they can add some oomph into your life…
1. Understand you’re good enough all by yourself
It’s very easy to find someone to spend time with, but when you have high standards for the people you allow into your life, you’re telling yourself that you’re better off by yourself than with someone who isn’t a great fit for you. You are valuable.
2. Value others’ opinions, but value your own more
Don’t ask for advice unless you truly need it. Instead, ask yourself for advice. If you knew the answer to the problem that you have, what would it be? That’s your answer. When you trust yourself to solve problems, you become a much stronger and more confident person.
3. Close your eyes in a dark room and appreciate the silence
Take a moment and sit quietly in a dark room. Listen to everything that is not happening around you. You can learn a lot about yourself in the moments when you’re least occupied—the times when there is nothing to distract you from the thoughts and feelings you deny yourself during your busy days.
4. Learn how to talk to yourself
They say it’s perfectly normal to talk to yourself; you’re only crazy if you talk back. Every single person has an inner voice that talks to them at all hours of all days, and getting to know that person and how to talk to them is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. Just like you’d distance yourself from negative friends who bring you down, it’s just as important to distance yourself from a negative inner voice.
5. Pursue an impractical project
When you work on a team, the pressure to conform is great. When you’re alone, you’re free to pursue any kind of project you want in your life. You have the freedom to be completely selfish and make no compromises about what you do or how you do it. Do something that’s completely over your head. Start something that you don’t know how to finish. In the piece of your life that you set aside, never, ever allow anyone else’s advice or opinions to direct how you work. This is something you do alone, for the benefit of no one but yourself.