Technology can be amazing, but it can also put you in tricky situations… For many people, the act of cheating is cut and dry – it means engaging in sexual contact of any kind with a person who is not your partner. However, being unfaithful can mean participating in any number of activities which your partner feels could be reserved for them. In order to protect your couple, boundaries should be set at the beginning of a relationship.
YOU MIGHT BE CHEATING WITHOUT REALIZING IT…
Affairs don’t start in the bedroom. They start with conversations. And in the age of social media, it has become increasingly easy…
One of the most common ways people cheat is by having an emotional affair. An affair of the heart. If there is chemistry and a bit of flirtation with someone of the opposite sex, you are already having an emotional affair. And emotional affairs can hurt as much as sexual infidelity. Indeed, someone has stepped into an emotional territory that your partner thought was reserved for them.
Any type of intimate conversation you may have with a “friend” can actually be the start of an emotional affair. Because you are giving someone access to something private that is supposed to be off-limits. Right there, you’ve crossed the line.
WHAT IS INTIMACY ?
Intimacy is not who you let touch you. Intimacy is who you text at 3:00 am about your dreams and fears. Intimacy is giving someone your attention, when other people are asking for it. Intimacy is the person always in the back of your mind, no matter how distracted you are.
You don’t have to have sex to be a cheater. Once you start hiding text messages, erasing them, lying about where you were or who you were with, or avoiding to mention something you’d rather the other did not know, it serves to prove that you are intentionally engaging in an activity that your partner would be hurt by, and you are already on your way to cheating. Honesty is the highest form of intimacy, not sex.
THE RAVAGES OF EMOTIONAL INFIDELITY
Technology has changed the game when it comes to love and relationships, and it has become a big part of our bonding experience. Which is why digital communication is definitely a gateway to infidelity. Text messages provide an opportunity for wandering hearts, hearts who might not have been physically unfaithful otherwise.
If you’re not sure whether your conversation with someone else is off boundaries, ask yourself the following: “Can I share this conversation with my significant other?” If the answer is that you’d rather not, then, you are definitely off-limits… Remember, as much as you’d like to think you are not doing anything wrong, the pain and hurt from an emotional affair can be very strong. Your significant other will feel deceived, lied to and betrayed. And that is difficult to recover from.