Feelings are the one most important thing that people tend not to talk about, but that should definitely climb the priority list when it comes to relationships, and here’s why.
Be honest about your feelings 100% of the time. You shouldn’t imply a tough persona when it comes to your feelings and your partner.
Be upfront and let your partner know how you’re feeling – despite any fears you may have. If feelings are not discussed in the present, then aggression and anxiety will build up and cause a much worse outcome that may be irreversible for the future.
Strive to be honest and instead of worrying about your partner’s reaction, be more consumed with how to improve the situation at hand.
Another topic a couple should discuss is past relationships. It’s important to lay everything out on the table at the beginning of a relationship. Being entirely honest will give the person the opportunity to bail before feelings are invested and cultivated. Have a Q&A – giving each other the opportunity to ask the question you deem important and worthwhile. Revealing prior relationships will alleviate any possible surprises in the future – which will also eliminate any future arguments.
And goals! You should talk about each other’s goals. Are you on the same wavelength? Ask if they are happy in their career, do they want children, do they want to get married, what are their short term and long term goals? In a nutshell, all of these topics should be addressed in the beginning so that there are no surprises. Be understanding that people do change over time, but as long as you’re upfront in the beginning, the progression and growth towards other happenings will hopefully be smooth-sailing.