Not a single couple on this earth hasn’t had some sort of financial problem. It happens! Just be careful and don’t let the money troubles get in the way of the big O.
Studies have shown that money is the most common source of stress among adults. Tension creeps into our love lives and money troubles affect relationships with partners. Worrying about money doesn’t just cause couples to quarrel. It can destroy your sex life.
When you are feeling down in the dumps, it’s difficult to enjoy yourself. Chronic stress can wear down people’s ability to let go and fully enjoy themselves during sex. You can become so preoccupied with worries about your financial future that you cannot concentrate on what’s happening in front of them ― in this case, sex.
So often, so much energy goes toward worrying, planning and, in some cases, overworking, that you have no energy left for the bedroom. The effects of money stress can manifest themselves in even more damaging ways. Rather than risk yet another fight about money, some couples choose to bottle up their emotions and avoid talking about finances at all.
Those feelings become pent up and turn to resentment, which becomes like a cancer to the relationship. People can become passive-aggressive and withhold sex from their partners as an attempt to punish or to act out their rage. In addition, there’s also a scientific explanation for the link between more stress and less sex drive.
When we experience stress, our nervous system goes into a fight-or-flight response, releasing stress hormones such as cortisol and epinephrine. These hormones are not harmful in small doses, but if we experience chronic stress and the release of these toxic hormones is prolonged, our physical health is affected in many ways. For example, cortisol suppresses our sex hormones, which, in turn, lowers your libido.
Getting back in to it
Getting your money and your mind in the right place will lead to bigger rewards in the bedroom. Here’s some advice.
Get some sleep: Grabbing more zzz’s can fight off those pesky stress hormones.
Find a healthy outlet: Instead of bottling up your emotions, find a healthy activity that helps you blow off some steam.
Focus on your overall health: It’s harder to manage stress when your body isn’t in the best shape. Try to make small improvements such as eating better and adding exercise to your daily routine.
Have more sex: It might seem counterintuitive, but one of the best things you can do to improve your lackluster sex life is to have sex anyway. You might not be in the mood beforehand, but you’ll likely feel better afterward. Sex, in itself, alleviates stress.